(Answered in part one)
Of course they can! Mental illness can make people very self-absorbed (not intentionally) but they have so much going on in their own head that they can lose sight of what is going on around them. In my non-expert opinion, yes it sounds like your relationship is a little toxic, through the fault of no one.
Honestly? You are his boyfriend/girlfriend/partner, you can be there for them as much as you like- but it is not your job to be their therapist. I would suggest talking about it to his or her parents/family members and make them aware of what is going on in the relationship, help build a support network and encourage them to get help.
Think of yourself as well. If you feel like the relationship is toxic and you want out- then get out. You need to take care of yourself and it is no good for either of you if you’re in a relationship that is unhealthy and makes you unhappy. If they try to harm themselves or threaten you with self harm or suicide, then call the police. Telling someone you will harm yourself or someone else if they end things is manipulation and a form of emotional abuse. It is often a last resort for a person who feels that they are losing control of a situation. I know it’s hard, but don’t give into it. Call emergency services and let them handle the situation.
Lastly, if you feel you need to talk to someone- do it. There are plenty of people out there who have been through your situation and you are not alone.
I hope that helps xx Let me know how it goes and stay strong <3
Hey beautiful <3
I am here to tell you that the last thing you are being is dramatic or weak. You are a human being, and with that comes emotions- emotions that we can’t control. It makes me incredibly sad for you to think that you feel like you can’t tell anyone. Honestly? Not everyone will be supportive, but the second someone is makes all the other stuff worth it. There are tonnes of people out there who love you and care about you.
You do not have to justify your emotions just because they don’t match up with traditional lines of mental illness. Just because someone has it, in your eyes, worse off than you, does not make your emotions any less real, legitimate or important. Please, I implore you to reach out to someone. You are a beautiful human being who deserves love and support in a difficult time. If you don’t feel comfortable reaching out to someone in your life, there are people out who are trained to help you, and if you need- there is a list of numbers (specific to country) on my page <333 Please just try it.
You’re not weak. You’re beautiful. You can get through this. i love you <3
(To be answered in part four)
(To be answered in part four)
To everyone this Valentines Day:
You are strong. You are beautiful. You are brave.
I am so, so proud of you for fighting and living. I know you can get through this because I have faith in you, even if you don’t have faith in yourself.
I love you.
You guys probably notice that I post a lot of youtube videos in regards to advice or coping methods in regards to a range of mental health issues! There are so many amazing YouTubers out there, and I thought you guys could benefit from their knowledge, expertise and experience
Downtownpatrol (Laura)- She’s incredible! She deals with Self harm, eating disorders, depression and anxiety! Aside from being funny and easy going, she has some great points and tips for recovery. She’s realistic and real (not to mention she has the coolest hair I’ve ever seen), I think that’s what drew me to her videos. She is a huge influence on this blog!
BlakeBliss - I’ve mentioned him before, he (along with Laura) is probably one of my biggest inspirations of all time. He’s a YouTube musician with a series called ‘Beyond Obscurity’ which deals with all of life’s big issues, depression, eating disorders, bullying, sexuality, mental health etc. He has a lot to say on a whole range of topics and I guarantee he will change your life! Give him a look!
Idranktheseawater (Melissa)- Melissa is probably the first YouTuber whose videos I ever watched in relation to mental health! She deals a lot with eating disorders, self harm, depression and tourettes syndrome. She’s honest and open, again very real! Her eating disorder coping videos are some of the best! Definitely give her a watch. Melissa has also written a book, which is an incredible read and details her struggles with mental illness and self injury (available here)
KatiMorton (Kati)-I definitely wish I’d found her videos sooner! She’s actually a therapist, and lives by the motto ‘Healthy Mind, Healthy body’. Her videos are informative, helpful and direct. She covers a huge range of mental health issues, but mostly covers topics to do with eating disorders.
xSullengirlx (Christie)- This list wouldn’t be complete without Sullengirl! Christie is a real YouTube veteran, having been around for more then six years! Her videos are insightful, and to me she’s been a real inspiration recovery-wise. Her aim is to spread awareness of self injury and mental health, she actually makes incredible jewellery to promote self injury awareness, (available here). She has some great videos covering things like Self-harm, depression, anxiety and borderline personality disorder. She’s a truly beautiful soul and a generally lovely person.
SelfHarmSupport- is a collaboration channel featuring on occasion, some of the above YouTubers. They are a very unique group of individuals from different backgrounds who come together to promote self injury awareness and recovery! I absolutely adore all of them!
PositiveMindProject- Another collaboration channel, (ft. Downtownpatrol) who focus on everything mental health related, from anxiety to eating disorders and depression- these guys have everything you need! They’re a beautiful group of people who are dedicated to helping the world become a better place.
lotsofcurlz36- One of my favourite young youtubers! Lotsofcurlz36 dedicated her videos solely to a disorder she has suffered for a long time- Tourette’s Syndrome. Her aim is to raise awareness for TS and to bring the disorder into a more positive light. She has a positive, sunny outlook on life, her videos are well informed- she definitely knows what she’s talking about, and I really enjoy her videos!
JustASkinnyBoy (Elijah)- Elijah is one of my newer YouTube finds and he is really just a beautiful soul. He posts some amazing stuff. His videos are extremely heartfelt. Elijah encourages his subscribers to send him their self harm tools in an effort for them to stop hurting themselves. He has such a big heart, and it shines through in his videos.
9343abs (Abi)- Abi!! She’s one of my favourite mental health YouTubers and I am lucky enough to have interacted with her a bunch on Tumblr. Abi deals with a range of real life stuff such as LGBT and identity issues, depression, self-harm and anxiety. Her videos are informative, open and real. She brings to the table a wisdom beyond her years.
Recognising Emotional Abuse
I don’t think it’s good to “force” relationship, I mean if they’re really your friends they souldn’t hesitate to text you and have some news from you once in a while. You can still send them messages here and there but if you see that they take ages to reply or give vagues answers like “yeah I’m okay. Nothing’s going on at the moment and you ?”. It just mean that you guys drifted apart and don’t be sad about it, accept it.
Accept it and move on, life’s like this “you lose some, you win some”. Try to go out and make new friends. Find new people, not to replace the old ones, but just to create genuine brand new and fresh relationships, it always feels good.
Good luck :)
If your boyfriend wants to help you stop self harming then let him do so ! Let him be your strenght.
Of course you’re going to relapse sometimes and if he never did it himself he won’t totaly understand and of course he’d be pissed cause he wants you to stop but in the end he does it for your own good. YOu have to make him understand that relapses are part of the processus while healing. But next time you want to do it think of him, call him, write something, get it out of your systeme. It’s gonna be hard but it will be okay <3
Stay strong <3
Just don’t lead him on.
Tell him you don’t have feelings for him. He’s gonna get hurt trying if you don’t want to be with him
There’s nothing wrong with no liking someone back, just tell him clearly, don’t be too harsh and rude about it just a simple “hey, look you’re really sweet and I like that you’re paying attention to me but I don’t share your feelings. I’m not into you the way you are. I’m sorry”.
And don’t go with the “but we can still be friends”. That’s some bull-ish- as far as I’m concerned unless you really want to and planning to actualy make efforts as being his friends, do not say that.
Good luck !
I know exactly how you feel.
I wouldn’t say it’s “normal”, but I noticed a good majority of poeple who are depressed or feel alone have this impression that they can’t talk to anyone and they let stupid liltle things bothers them, which bother people ..
But listen, I don’t know your situation, I don’t know you or your life but I know that when you start to feel alone, you have a bad tendency to isolate yourself and it becomes a vicious circle. Don’t fall into that. Go out, talk to someone you trust, a good friend. Don’t be affraid. You should feel conmfortable enough with your friends to tell them you’re not okay. If you feel you can’t trust them ( yeah it migh be liltle things but it requires trust to talk about them freely with someone else)
Don’t be affraid to seek help, it’s the best you can do. I did that when I needed it and trust me it’s no big deal.
Lot of luck <3
Be a selfish bitch.
Don’t feel bad for going after what you want.
Do that shit on your own fucking terms.
Hold a middle finger up to anyone who puts you down.
Wear what you want.
Do what you want.
Worry about yourself being good before anyone else.
Life life to the fucking fullest.
You run you.
You paint your own damn masterpiece.
Never fucking forget that.
Go on, girl. You better do it.
Love, first of all I want you to know that i am so sorry that this happened to you. it’s not right and it no one deserves to be hurt and betrayed like that, least of all you. <3 Just because you’re in college, doesn’t mean that it’s not a big deal. It IS a big deal. There are so many resources out there for people who have been through the same or a similar trauma. You’re at college, so I want you to go and seek help from a school counsellor. Talk to someone about what you’re going through, someone who can help you- because nobody deserves to go through this alone. Perhaps he or she has information about a local support group that you can attend.
Secondly, and if you’re comfortable with it, I would go to the police and report the incident. That way, it’s on record if this happens again, and they may be able to investigate and find a way to find out who did this to you.
If you’re not feeling up to any of that yet, please consider calling a hotline or visiting a page. The two most important things right now is that you understand that none of this is your fault and you know that you are not alone. I have a list of numbers and websites organised by countries:
and if none of these are applicable to you, drop me another message and let me know which country/state/province you live in and I can do a little more research for you.
I love you, and just know that no matter what happens, you are a beautiful human being. We are more than the sum of our past experiences, and although it may not seem like it right now, it will get better in time <3 I promise :) Stay strong beautiful and keep me posted xox
Definitely beautiful <3 there are many, many online and helpline numbers you can call to talk to someone.
Depending on your country, the numbers can be found here:
I hope this helps and I hope you feel better soon <3 Just know that even the worst of times have to pass. Stay strong <3