That’s not true, there are people in your life who care about you immensely, you probably just don’t see it <3 You never know the impact your life can have on another person :) People love you, and I love you too. 

I just want you and all of my followers to know that I will always care, I will always love you, I will always be here to listen, support and help in whatever way that I can <3 Stay strong beautiful.

Hey hun <3 First off, I want you to know that I do believe that you can stop, secondly I want you to know that you don’t need to beat yourself up for relapsing. Sure, it’s not ideal <3 but we all fall off the horse sometimes, what’s important is getting back up again. It might take a week, a month, a year- but if you’ve stopped before, you CAN do it again! Each time you quit you get a little stronger <3 

My best advice for when you feel the urge is to distract yourself. Play loud music, go for a jog, ring a friend. If you’re looking for a list of alternatives to self-harm, they can be found here. I know you can get through this, and you WILL come out stronger. 

My second bit of advice would be to talk to someone, let a friend or a parent know about the situation. Sometimes it just helps having that support there and knowing that you have someone looking out for you. 

I know you can get through this. Stay strong hun, I love you. 

Hey hun <3 I want to let you know how proud I am of you for struggling with all that and still being here today <3 You are an incredibly strong person and for that I commend you. Thankyou so much for messaging me instead of going and hurting yourself, you are so beautiful and so brave. Fight off the urges, you’ve made it this far, it’s possible to keep going. :)  Urges do and will pass! <3 I believe that you can get through tonight <3 stay strong beautiful, I know you can do this. 

hey hun <3 first of all, I want to congratulate you for being brave enough for going to get a diagnosis. 

I have good news and I have bad news. The good news is that now you know what’s wrong, they have a better chance of being able to manage your treatment- and really, medication isn’t all that bad. There are other treatments that you can look into besides medication, treatments and therapies aimed specifically at Schizophrenia and depression, things like psychotherapy and CBT- if you’re interested in those, I would highly recommend you talk about them with a doctor or a psychologist who can tell you how beneficial they would be for your particular case. 

As for the bad news, I’m afraid to tell you hun that not everything is instantaneously fixed with a diagnosis <3 Recovery isn’t an immediate thing. It takes a lot of time and hard world (but I know you can get through it). For some people, it has to get worse before it can get better- but I promise you that it is short-term pain for long term gain. 

I know you can’t see it now, but in a few years I can almost guarantee that you will look back and see an improvement in your quality of life and getting diagnosed will be one of the best decisions you’ve ever had <3

(See part 1) 

Hey kid <3 

Sounds like you’re going through a rough time, and I know how scary that can feel, when you’re emotions are spiralling and you don’t know what to do about it. It’s kind of like you’re trapped inside you’re own head, right. 

It’s especially hard when you don’t have that family support and you’re living on your own. I think the first step you should do is to tell your parents- even if you guys don’t live in the same house, it’s still good to have that support and for someone to know what’s going on. The best approach with parents, I find, is just to be honest- and although that’s the scariest part, it’s usually the one that yields the best results. Just sit them down or call them up and tell them that things have gotten bad and that you need their support right now <3 I’m sure they will understand. 

As for friends, anyone who won’t answer a call or take the time out to check on someone they are supposed to care about, isn’t worth your time. I know it’s easier said then done, but you deserve better then that, you deserve to surround yourself with people who will care about you and take the time to spend time with you. You’ll find them if you’re just willing to put yourself out there. 

Thirdly, please, please- I implore you to go and talk to a professional, whether it be a doctor, a counsellor or a psychologist. Talking to someone doesn’t make you weak, it just proves how brave you are. I can sense that, at least some part of you, wants to get out of this hole- why else would you have messaged me? 

You’re a beautiful person and although it makes me so sad to see you like this, I know that you can get through this <3 Mental Illness is a tough game, but more people come out alive then don’t. Don’t let it take over your life any more then it already has, you deserve better then that. 

• Mental Illness is always a tough one to tackle, especially when you are dealing with a friend who suffers from it. Because there is a lot going on inside a person’s head, sometimes it can lead them to, without even realising it, become self-absorbed (I’m not saying that this is not what your friend is doing, but it does happen). 

Your friend needs to understand that the majority of self-harm is done not for attention. Next time she brings up that someone else ‘does it for attention’ just ask her if, because other people ‘just do it for attention’ shouldn’t that mean that she’s doing it for attention too? I will admit, there are a small percentage out there who do it for attention, but the majority of us don’t. 

By your last question hun, I am assuming that you’re suffering from self harm as well <3 and I am so sorry to hear that because no one deserves to go through so much pain where they feel they need to hurt themselves. I personally do not know your friend, but judging by the way it sounds now, she might not be the best person to tell first up. I would go to another friend or parent or counsellor that you know that can give you the support you need and deserve first.

Once you know that you have that support from someone else, that’s when I think it would be safe to confide in your best friend. If she really cares about you, she will understand- she might get angry or upset because she loves you, but she won’t tell you that you’re doing it for attention if you’re a real friend. Rather then take that risk, I would confide in someone else first as well, just so you have that fallback support- and if you’re best friend reacts in a good way, then you can have twice the support ! 

• I hope it goes okay love <3 Stay strong and I love you. Let me know how it goes. 

Hey hun <3 

I know more then anyone how much it hurts when people point out the things we’re already insecure about. Even if they are ‘joking’, weight is something that people should never make fun of. There’s not easy way around this, but there are a couple of things you can do that might help. 

The first is to show them that it doesn’t phase you. Don’t invite more criticism, but hold your head high. You’re beautiful just the way you are and even though it is definitely easier said then done, at least try to show that these words aren’t getting to you. Don’t give them that satisfaction and don’t let them win. 

The second is, if some of your friends are joining in on the teasing, I suggest taking one of your close friends aside and explaining how much this is really hurting you. They might not even have known what they were doing was hurting you. <3 It’s worth a try, right? 

If all else fails, then you need to tell an adult, whether that be an older brother or sister, a parent, a teacher or a school counsellor. There are always people out there who are willing to and want to help <3 You deserve there help. 

Lastly, I want you to know that I think you’re strong for coming and reaching out for help. I know how hard it is to admit that there is a problem, so I commend you for that hun. No matter what they say, you’re beautiful. You really are, and I love you <3 You don’t need to change for them, their view doesn’t matter- the only thing that matters is the way you view yourself.

Good luck and let me know how it goes :)

I remember I once answered to a question about it and then gave some links to blogs, hotlines, articles ect …

But you’re not wrong, I guess we should add something to our links so we can get into it more deeply.

Okay, so it’ll be done soon and yeah, I haven’t though about it before but I’m sure a lot of our followers will like that idea of having more infos/help about abuse.

Thanks for making us notice ^^’

. Dude, you’re entitled to your opinion, but to come here and criticise my followers based on a personal matter? That’s just wrong. 

For the record, I believe that love is love, but that’s just me. I will help anyone who asks, regardless of sexual orientation, gender, religious beliefs or cultural background. Just because a person is a certain way or believes a certain thing, does not make them any less in need of my help or advice. I’m not here to discriminate  just to help or listen to someone in need, regardless of who they are. 

Okay, first things first- you’re never a ‘silly little girl that cuts’ I promise <3 Your problem isn’t that you’re oversensitive or stupid or silly and is not to be trivialised. I promise you that. It’s very real, even if some doctors won’t take it seriously. There are people out there who will though. There are hotlines you can call and doctors you can see. 

My best advice would be to not self-diagnose, especially when it comes to things like bpd, because it always does more harm then good- and sometimes it leads the brain to subconsciously produce previously unseen symptoms based on the diagnosis you’ve made yourself. That’s why it’s always best to leave the professional diagnosis to a counsellor, a psychologist or a doctor. 

I think that you should seek help from a professional because there are people out there who can help. There are plenty of them out in the community whether it be a school psychologist/counsellor, a youth worker or a doctor. I strongly suggest you go and see them because not only do I think you should get help, I think you deserve to get better. 

You’re very brave for reaching out to me, and I think that it shows that you really do want to get better. The road to recovery is never an easy one, but it’s so worth it in the end and so are you <3 keep me posted beautiful and stay strong ! 

Alternatives to Self-Harm

Under the cut are over 100 alternatives to self-harm <3 Relapses are normal and nothing to be ashamed of, but perhaps there is something in here that helps work so that you might one day prevent them <3

Read More

Wow, first I think you try to calm yourself. I don’t think that stress would help in any way.

If you’re that worried and really want to get true answers then the only thing you can do is to take an appointement with a psychologist. If needed to be, follow a therapy and you’ll see how’s going.

And cutting isn’t the answer !!!!!!! (Yeah, exclamation marks just for emphasis)

You have to stay strong ! I don’t know if you were on self-harm recovery or something but you can’t give up on all you’ve been through so far. Please …

Depersonalisation Disorder is very hard to deal with, in my opnion. I don’t know what made you though you may have it, but you can’t be sure without the opinion of a specialist so start with that.

I hope it’ll get better xoxox

I think that you should try to go on a date with him first. He doesn’t live near so I guess it might be a liltle comlicatedto plan but you should really give it a try. Tell him that it’d be really nice to meet up, a  week-end, you and him and you’ll get to know each other better.

Let the date goes on and if it went well then just brace yourself and ask him if there’s any chances that something happens between you and him. Tell him that you’re curious to know. You don’t have to be rudely honnest like “hey boy do you like me, cause I like you. I wanna date you. “

If it turns out that he does want to be more than friends then the rest will be in your hands

Good luck ! Let me know how it went ^^

xoxox

(answered in part 1 of question)