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lah-disputes:

This may get 2 notes this may get 1000. I don’t really mind, even if it helps one person i’m happy. I just want you to know that everything will be okay. I know you’re in a hard place right now where you think that maybe harming yourself or killing yourself is the only solution. But I promise you, there are other ways you can cope and there are reasons for you to stay on this earth. Self harming isn’t going to solve the problem/s nor will it make you feel any better. I know you get a sense of release/punishment but it’s not going to help in the long run. Remind yourself that every time you feel the urge to self-harm that it’s just a thought. You DO NOT have to act upon it. Self-harming will affect you emotionally, physically and mentally. It will only help for about 5 minutes. Then something else can happen to trigger the feeling again. Alternatives without harming yourself:
Holding/squeezing ice. 
Splashing your face with water. 
Getting a rubber band and snapping it against your skin (this could hurt, though it’s better than other ways that people usually choose to self-harm).
Take a hot shower or bath.
Eat something sour. It will take your mind off the urge. (Lemon, sour lollies) 
Massage where you want to self-harm.
Get a red pen or red paint and draw/paint over where you usually self-harm. 
Remind yourself as to why you shouldn’t do it. (Scars, harms organs, blood lose, leave memories etc…)
Describe what you are feeling. (Is the urge/pain in your chest, fists, legs, arms, head).
Killing yourself will not help. It is not a solution.For whatever reason you are thinking about killing yourself, it is temporary and you can get help. I know you probably think no one cares, you think you can’t handle the situation you are in or you feel helpless and alone. But I want to remind you everything is temporaryYou have your whole life ahead of you. You have so many more years that you can accomplish things in. For example; 
Having a family. 
Getting married.
To watch the sun rise. 
To watch the sun set.
To save someone else’s life.
Finish school.
Get your dream job.
To laugh.
To smile.
To go camping.
Travel to new places.
To wake up every morning to the person you love.
Friends.
Family.
To keep that promise you made.
To accomplish a goal.
To meet your idle.
To listen to new music.
Theme parks.
Video games.
Chocolate.
To be able to look back and say “I made it”.
Just a reminder; what you are going through is temporary. In case you need to hear this:
You are loved. 
You are wanted. 
You are needed.
You are beautiful.
You are handsome. 
You are important. 
You are not alone. 
You are okay. 
You are strong. 
You are worth it. 
You are smart. 
You are not a failure. 
You are useful. 
You are going to be okay. 
I’m always here for you. I’ll try my best to help and make you smile. You deserve to be happy and you deserve to know that you are not alone and there are people that can help. 

This post sums it all.

lah-disputes:

This may get 2 notes this may get 1000. I don’t really mind, even if it helps one person i’m happy. 

I just want you to know that everything will be okay. I know you’re in a hard place right now where you think that maybe harming yourself or killing yourself is the only solution. But I promise you, there are other ways you can cope and there are reasons for you to stay on this earth. 

Self harming isn’t going to solve the problem/s nor will it make you feel any better. I know you get a sense of release/punishment but it’s not going to help in the long run. 
Remind yourself that every time you feel the urge to self-harm that it’s just a thought. You DO NOT have to act upon it. 
Self-harming will affect you emotionally, physically and mentally. It will only help for about 5 minutes. Then something else can happen to trigger the feeling again. 

Alternatives without harming yourself:

  • Holding/squeezing ice. 
  • Splashing your face with water. 
  • Getting a rubber band and snapping it against your skin (this could hurt, though it’s better than other ways that people usually choose to self-harm).
  • Take a hot shower or bath.
  • Eat something sour. It will take your mind off the urge. (Lemon, sour lollies) 
  • Massage where you want to self-harm.
  • Get a red pen or red paint and draw/paint over where you usually self-harm. 
  • Remind yourself as to why you shouldn’t do it. (Scars, harms organs, blood lose, leave memories etc…)
  • Describe what you are feeling. (Is the urge/pain in your chest, fists, legs, arms, head).



Killing yourself will not help. It is not a solution.
For whatever reason you are thinking about killing yourself, it is temporary and you can get help. 
I know you probably think no one cares, you think you can’t handle the situation you are in or you feel helpless and alone. 
But I want to remind you everything is temporary
You have your whole life ahead of you. You have so many more years that you can accomplish things in. 
For example; 

  • Having a family. 
  • Getting married.
  • To watch the sun rise. 
  • To watch the sun set.
  • To save someone else’s life.
  • Finish school.
  • Get your dream job.
  • To laugh.
  • To smile.
  • To go camping.
  • Travel to new places.
  • To wake up every morning to the person you love.
  • Friends.
  • Family.
  • To keep that promise you made.
  • To accomplish a goal.
  • To meet your idle.
  • To listen to new music.
  • Theme parks.
  • Video games.
  • Chocolate.
  • To be able to look back and say “I made it”.

Just a reminder; what you are going through is temporary. 

In case you need to hear this:

  • You are loved. 
  • You are wanted. 
  • You are needed.
  • You are beautiful.
  • You are handsome. 
  • You are important. 
  • You are not alone. 
  • You are okay. 
  • You are strong. 
  • You are worth it. 
  • You are smart. 
  • You are not a failure. 
  • You are useful. 
  • You are going to be okay. 

I’m always here for you. I’ll try my best to help and make you smile. 
You deserve to be happy and you deserve to know that you are not alone and there are people that can help. 

This post sums it all.

(via thetpr)


Anonymous:
I just cut for the first time in about a month and i feel like shit and idk what to do with my self anymore. And that fact that i came out as lesbian recently but now im questioning if maybe im bi doesnt help, im just so stressed out and need advice

Hey love, 

First I want to let you know that I love you. I think we all need to hear that sometimes. Recovery is a long process, and sometimes we slip up. Don’t think of it as ‘I cut for a first time in a month’, think of it as ‘I went a month without hurting myself. You lasted a month, who says you can’t last longer next time? You’ve shown yourself that you can. Sometimes recovery feels as if it’s one step forward, two steps back- but what’s important is that we keep taking that one step forward. Just keep going and eventually, it will get better. 

We live in a society hellbent on labelling our sexualities and that can make things difficult. Sexuality can be tricky, and for a lot of people, it’s on a spectrum rather than a label. For example, some people identify as bisexual, but are more attracted to men than women and vice versa. It can be difficult to label. In the end, it’s just a name- an identifier and not something you should stress out about too much. If it really worries you, just let people know, ‘Hey… I know I said I was attracted only to one gender, but who really knows?” Anything can happen, right? We can never predict who we have feelings for, whether it be a person of the opposite or same gender. 

I love you, stay strong <3 <3 Keep going. 


Anonymous:
I don't want to be a burden so im so sorry for messaging you but I need help. Im not in control anymore. I stopped self harming abiut two or three years ago and now I cant control these feelings anymore. Im so close to picking up the blade again.

You’re not a burden, don’t worry, it’s okay.

That’s what happens when you’ve stopped cutting for so long, one day you’ll feel really bad and thinsg will slowly start to accumulate and you’ll fall into your old schemes again.

But I know you can get through this, 2 years is a long time, you’ve been strong all along you can’t give up now. Before you do anything, please just take a moment, once you’re done reading this message, close you laptop, close your eyes, lie on your bed and ask yourself :  “Is it whort it” ? The pain you’re facing now, will it stay with you forever and whorth throwing away all the strenght you gathered to stop desrtroying yoursel ? Right now, do you want to face the blade or face reality ? Reality being that : life is hard, no one is denying that, it sucks something it puts you down makes you feel pathetic BUT it also give you all these precious moments, the ones you share with people you love, or just moment wwhere you were alone by yourself but still felt that everything was okay, even if it was for 5 freaking minutes !

So yeah, I’ve been posting and saying it over and over again and I’ll keep doing it until  the message fully sink in : “”It will be okay. I swear, at some point it will. This pain is only temporary.”

Please stay strong, you’ve been for so long already <3


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Anonymous:
I've been on antidepressants for just over 7 months now, and I'm coming off them I'm cutting them in half and so on, I'm already feeling the side effects of coming off them and I've only been doing it 2 days, does that mean I'm not ready to be coming off them?

Hi there :) 

As I am not a Doctor or psychiatrist, I am not qualified to give a professional opinion as to whether or not you’re ready to come off of your medication. However, you may be experiencing withdrawals symptoms, in which case I would encourage you to see your Doctor. Sit down with him/her and explain that you are not sure that you’re ready to come off of your medication. Make sure you tell them the symptoms you’ve been experiencing in doing so. Your doctor will then be able to give a professional opinion as to whether or not you’re ready. I really need to stress that medication cut downs always, always, always need to be done under the supervision and guidance of a trained medical professional. 

I hope this helps beautiful, stay strong <3 <3 


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Anonymous:
!!! Also. My significant other is too sad, and if I were to break up with him, then it would make him feel worse. I don't want him to do anything far out there like kill himself or self harm.

(Answered in part one) 


Anonymous:
Do you think that it's possible a friend/significant other can be too self absorbed, too negative, and too self hating? Like, can that create a toxic relationship? I have a significant other who gets upset almost every other day and complains that he isn't useful. And it really bothers me. Please trust me, I love helping him. But it's getting exhausting. I love him to DEATH, but I can't handle this sometimes. I don't know what to do. This is my third time askin someone this I want perspective :>

Of course they can! Mental illness can make people very self-absorbed (not intentionally) but they have so much going on in their own head that they can lose sight of what is going on around them. In my non-expert opinion, yes it sounds like your relationship is a little toxic, through the fault of no one. 

Honestly? You are his boyfriend/girlfriend/partner, you can be there for them as much as you like- but it is not your job to be their therapist. I would suggest talking about it to his or her parents/family members and make them aware of what is going on in the relationship, help build a support network and encourage them to get help. 

Think of yourself as well. If you feel like the relationship is toxic and you want out- then get out. You need to take care of yourself and it is no good for either of you if you’re in a relationship that is unhealthy and makes you unhappy. If they try to harm themselves or threaten you with self harm or suicide, then call the police. Telling someone you will harm yourself or someone else if they end things is manipulation and a form of emotional abuse. It is often a last resort for a person who feels that they are losing control of a situation. I know it’s hard, but don’t give into it. Call emergency services and let them handle the situation. 

Lastly, if you feel you need to talk to someone- do it. There are plenty of people out there who have been through your situation and you are not alone. 

I hope that helps xx Let me know how it goes and stay strong <3 


Anonymous:
i came as anon because i am so embarrassed that i'll be ignored and judged. :( i feel really sad lately and i just want to die. no one cares about what im feeling. if i tell them about what i truly feel, they'll just tell me that i'm being overly dramatic and nonsense. clearly i dont mean anything. :( i just want to get over this pain.

Hey beautiful <3 

I am here to tell you that the last thing you are being is dramatic or weak. You are a human being, and with that comes emotions- emotions that we can’t control. It makes me incredibly sad for you to think that you feel like you can’t tell anyone. Honestly? Not everyone will be supportive, but the second someone is makes all the other stuff worth it. There are tonnes of people out there who love you and care about you. 

You do not have to justify your emotions just because they don’t match up with traditional lines of mental illness. Just because someone has it, in your eyes, worse off than you, does not make your emotions any less real, legitimate or important. Please, I implore you to reach out to someone. You are a beautiful human being who deserves love and support in a difficult time. If you don’t feel comfortable reaching out to someone in your life, there are people out who are trained to help you, and if you need- there is a list of numbers (specific to country) on my page <333 Please just try it.

You’re not weak. You’re beautiful. You can get through this. i love you <3


Anonymous:
so weak and gutless. im ashamed to feek so sorry and sad for myself because i dont deserve to and so i dont want to tell anybody. im just so tired of being sad all i want to do is sleep. im sorry for ranting so much. i just dont know what to do

(To be answered in part four)


Anonymous:
and i feel like i cant handle it anymore. somtimes i want to die but i know thats not the way out so im just stuck here suffering. i dont know what to do because i dont want to gwt help but i do atthe same time. i feel ashamed that im so weak

(To be answered in part four)