xSullengirlx on standing together for Self harm and mental health awareness.
Self Harm Awareness Day is today. It’s a reminder to be strong and to spread awareness about self harm. Stay Strong ❤ I love you all!!
If you know anyone struggling with this, make sure they know they aren’t alone and are loved. If you haven’t educated yourself on the causes and difficulties with self harm, make sure you do that; it is a complex issue, and many people don’t fully understand how hard it is to overcome.
If you yourself are struggling with it, please know that you are loved and that you can overcome anything, no matter how impossible it seems right now.
I want to say congratulations to all the people who haven’t given up.
All those moments when you thought you weren’t gonna be able to make it through this life.
All those blades you used because you felt you were worthless.
All those meals you threw up because you wanted those collarbones or the flat stomach.
All those lighters that scorched your skin because you were tired if feeling numb.
All those times when you wrote your suicide note because you hated living.
All those panic and anxiety attacks that make you feel like you can’t breathe.
All those times you saw a gun or cross a road and imagines what it would be like if it was an ‘accident’.
All those people who called you names and stabbed you in the back when you needed them most.
Thank you for not giving up. YOU are IMPORTANT. You have a PURPOSE. You are STRONG. There are people out there who love you. I love you. You are all beautiful, your strength is incredibly beautiful. My ask box is ALWAYS open and I am always willing to listen..
Thank you for making through all this bullshit, thank-you for fighting, thankyou for breathing. I applaud you. Please don’t give up, IT DOES GET BETTER. I promise.
xSullengirlx Talks about what to do when family/friends don’t believe you have a mental illness.
Understanding the Symptoms
1) Fear of contamination with dirt, germs, or poisons
2) Fear of having a serious illness
3) Fear that one’s actions hurt other people or cause bad things to happen
4) Inability to discard useless items (hoarding)
5) Inappropriate sexual and aggressive thoughts and images
6) Need for symmetry, order, or exactness
1) Asking for assurances
2) Avoiding places or situations
5) Doing certain tasks slowly and deliberately
6) Doubting and checking, e.g., locks, lights, and ovens
7) Hoarding possessions
8) Ordering or arranging
9) Repeating behaviors, including speech and action
10) Washing, e.g., excessive hand-washing or bathing
It is a long, hard road for people trying to get help with their OCD and it is a disorder people shouldn’t take lightly. There is a huge suicide rate for people with OCD and I am living proof of that.
It wasn’t until I entered high school when I started getting help for this disorder. Unfortunately, I had to attempt suicide myself to finally get it across to the ones around me that I needed help and fast. People who don’t suffer from OCD have no idea how hard it is and how easy it is to become a victim of your own mind which leads to a very deep depression that might take years or an entire lifetime to dig yourself out of.
If you suffer from OCD or know someone who does, these following tips are greatly important and I highly recommend you do all of them:
Find a psychologist and psychiatrist. A psychologist is more of a “hands on” kind of person while a psychiatrist just prescribes your medication. If you can find one person who does both, that is even better and easier. When you do find a psychologist make sure this is a person you’d be willing to talk to about very personal issues. From a person who has been to over 7 psychologists and psychiatrists, my advice is to line up a few, have one session with each of them and then pick which one you like the best (which one listened, which one gave very good advice ect.). This should be the first step to your recovery.
Once you have gotten to know your psychologist and he/she has gotten to know you, it is time to get your family involved. If you live with your parents, husband, wife, housemate or anyone have your psychologist talk to them to help them better understand that you are in a very sensitive stage right now. I remember watching a show on MTV about this girl with OCD and she would touch thing repeatedly until it felt “just right” while her parents, who clearly didn’t understand this disorder, would laugh at her which most likely made her feel more anxious. So, make sure the people you live with are educated and willing to help you through this because it would be hard to recover without their support.
Talk to people who have OCD: There are many groups and website communities out there where you can meet up with other people and learn from each other. The website I am a member of is called www.ocdtribe.com. This is a fantastic website where you can meet other OCD sufferers and the people there are so friendly that as soon as you sign up, people will almost automatically start pilling your profile with nice welcoming messages. Talking to people with similar problems is probably the best medicine of all.
Home Treatment: It is really important to try and cope with your OCD symptoms. Here are some great ideas for when you start to get overwhelmed with rituals and urges, you can do something from this list to help calm and slow your mind down.
1. Taking slow, deep breaths.
2. Soaking in a warm bath.
3. Listening to soothing music.
4. Taking a walk or doing some other exercise.
5. Taking a yoga class.
6. Having a massage or back rub.
7. Drinking a warm, nonalcoholic, non-caffeinated beverage.
Medication: It is not always necessary to take medication depending on how severe your OCD is. I suggest not taking medication until you have tried hands on therapy with your psychologist. If it doesn’t seem to be working or you still need an extra boost, talk to your psychiatrist about possible medications for OCD. He/she will need to know your basic issues before prescribing medication because you might have other problems that usually come in the OVD territory like depression, Body dysmorphic disorder (BDD) which causes you to be very critical of your self-image despite the fact you don’t have any visible deformity or defect, Dermatillomania or compulsive skin picking (CSP) which causes you to pick at your skin to relieve stress and Trichotillomania (TTM or Trich) which causes you to pull out your hair and leave bald spots out of stress. Before you start medication, however, make sure you have someone there that can monitor you because a change of chemicals in your brain or a change in dosage of your medication might bring out suicidal tendencies.
I believe OCD to be kind of like alcoholism. Sure you can go to rehab and get help but this is something you have to manage, deal with, for the rest of your life. Even though it is a horrible disorder to deal with there is no easy road out of this. I know it hurts. I’ve been there, done that. I have been trying to manage this for a decade now and the thing you have got to remember and believe is that you don’t have to let this smudge in your life control you and take over you. You are in control and once you see it and feel it, you are going to feel so free and live a happier life. You are in control.
There’s nothing wrong with you, you’re just going through a tough time. Stay strong and don’t give up.
To Write Love on Her Arms is a non-profit movement dedicated to presenting hope and finding help for people struggling with depression, addiction, self-injury and suicide. TWLOHA exists to encourage, inform, inspire and also to invest directly into treatment and recovery.
December 21st 2011.
February 22nd 2012.
The two worst days of my life, by far. The two days I tried to take my own life, barely a month apart… Why do I write this, you may ask? Because I’m still here. I’m still living. I’m still breathing. I’m still alive. I’m living proof of what we all get told. It DOES get better. There’s a part of me that still battles, every day, but everyone fights their own battles. It’s never easy, but it’s so worth it. There has never been a single second since I decided to fight- that I regret it. Even when I slip up, even when I break down, it’s worth it. I’m not perfect, I slip up, you will too… but does that mean I don’t want to fight? No.
You’re probably tired, sick of life.. you just want the pain to stop. It can stop, and you don’t have to end your life to make it stop. Just keep fighting, don’t be afraid to reach out and get help. I did, because I matter- and you do too. It might be the end of pain for you, but think of the impossibly long trail of sadness you will leave behind you if you were to go? Think of the people you love most in the world. Friends, family, boyfriends, girlfriends, people on Tumblr, school peers, teachers, neighbours… you will scar them all, break them beyond repair. Your pain will spread to others. When a person commits suicide, they do not only take their own lives- but the lives of everyone they care about and who cares about them.
Remember that, please. I would be so devastated if you were to go- I may not know your name, what you look like or where you live- but I do know one thing. You’re beautiful. You’re unique. You’re amazing, but most of all, you’re worthy of life. You’re worthy of finding the joy and happiness in life.
You’re beautiful and worthy of living.
It’s not going to be easy, but in the end it’s definitely worth it.
Stay strong <3 Keep your chin up.
Keep on Keepin’ On.
You guys probably notice that I post a lot of youtube videos in regards to advice or coping methods in regards to a range of mental health issues! There are so many amazing YouTubers out there, and I thought you guys could benefit from their knowledge, expertise and experience
Downtownpatrol (Laura)- She’s incredible! She deals with Self harm, eating disorders, depression and anxiety! Aside from being funny and easy going, she has some great points and tips for recovery. She’s realistic and real (not to mention she has the coolest hair I’ve ever seen), I think that’s what drew me to her videos. She is a huge influence on this blog!
BlakeBliss his second channel here (Blake)- I’ve mentioned him before, he (along with Laura) is probably one of my biggest inspirations of all time. He’s a YouTube musician with a series called ‘Beyond Obscurity’ which deals with all of life’s big issues, depression, eating disorders, bullying, sexuality, mental health etc. He has a lot to say on a whole range of topics and I guarantee he will change your life! Give him a look!
Idranktheseawater (Melissa)- Melissa is probably the first YouTuber whose videos I ever watched in relation to mental health! She deals a lot with eating disorders, self harm and tourettes syndrome. She’s honest and open, again very real! Her eating disorder coping videos are some of the best! Definitely give her a watch. Melissa has also written a book, which is an incredible read and details her struggles with mental illness and self injury (available here)
KatiMorton (Kati)- is one of my newer youtube finds! I definitely wish I’d found her videos sooner! She’s actually a therapist, and lives by the motto ‘Healthy Mind, Healthy body’. Her videos are informative and direct. She covers a range of mental health issues, but mostly covers topics to do with eating disorders.
xSullengirlx (Christie)- This list wouldn’t be complete without Sullengirl! Christie is a real YouTube veteran, having been around for more then six years! Her videos are insightful, and to me she’s been a real inspiration recovery-wise. Her aim is to spread awareness of self injury and mental health, she actually makes incredible jewellery to promote self injury awareness, (available here).
SelfHarmSupport- is a collaboration channel featuring on occasion, some of the above YouTubers. They are a very unique group of individuals from different backgrounds who come together to promote self injury awareness and recovery! I absolutely adore all of them!
PositiveMindProject- Another collaboration channel, (ft. Downtownpatrol) who focus on everything mental health related, from anxiety to eating disorders and depression- these guys have everything you need! They’re a beautiful group of people who are dedicated to helping the world become a better place.
lotsofcurlz36- One of my favourite young youtubers! Lotsofcurlz36 dedicated her videos solely to a disorder she has suffered for a long time- Tourette’s Syndrome. Her aim is to raise awareness for TS and to bring the disorder into a more positive light. She has a positive, sunny outlook on life, her videos are well informed- she definitely knows what she’s talking about, and I really enjoy her videos!
Separatedbyfew- is a Blake Bliss initiative collaboration channel featuring several well known youtubers (HaiLedabear and Nathan of Desandnate among them) to bring to you, life’s big issues. Their motto, Help me, help you, help us, spills over into their social network compassionandpeace.org, a judgement free site that welcomes people of all backgrounds, genders and nationalities to come together to help each other through the hardships of life.
Hey everyone, I’m looking for a new contributor/s (one or two) to this blog, a co-admin if you’d like. Preferably someone with experience in mental health situations, whether it be someone who has gone through it themselves or they have studied it. I want Always Hope for a Brighter Future to expand.
They would be posting the inspiring messages, answering some of the questions that come in and providing more general information. (e.g. I’d like to expand to have a page specialised for anxiety, OCD etc) but I can’t do this on my own! I need YOUR HELP!
-This is a pro-recovery blog. Therefore, no triggering pictures or words will be published. e.g. No triggering pictures of self harm, no thinspo or pro-ana posts. That’s not what I am about.
-Regular contributor- I need someone who will update here daily, along with me. I don’t want a person who will flake out after two weeks.
-When answering questions, try to be as empathetic as possible. There is no stupid question asked here. If the person asking the question wishes that it be kept private then we will abide by their wishes.
To apply, just drop me a line of interest either in my ask or my submission box. We can talk from there!